I have worked with many home buyers over the years and done my fair share of real estate contract negotiations. Many eventually call me when it is time for them to list their home for sale. These repeat customers are the highest form of compliment an agent can receive. When a past buyer contacts an agent to sell their home, it conveys their confidence in my expertise and I successfully earned their trust and built a positive relationship with them. The buyer then becomes the seller.
There are many types of home buyers and sellers. Each specific category brings its own unique perspective when looking to purchase a new home. First time home buyers can sometime require a greater degree of hand holding as they navigate the home buying process for the first time.
They are often unfamiliar with the process and need to feel reassurance as the transaction moves from offer to closing. More seasoned buyers may not need as much information as a first timer, however still need an agent that has a proven track record of negotiating, a keen sense of the market and valuation, and strong communication skills.
For buyers, agents are tasked with ensuring that the buyer’s sales price is as close to market value possible and to facilitate the successful completion of the transaction. For sellers, agents are relied upon to come up with an accurate valuation of market value and to get the home in front of as many potential buyers as they can.
In a real estate transaction, the perception of the buyer is often that they are in a subordinate position. The seller has the final say about what offer they will accept. When a buyer turns into the seller they can often get drunk with power.
I noticed an interesting trend developing when past buyers become sellers. The mindset, perspective, and attitude is definitely influenced by which side of the transaction they are on. How a particular client is as a buyer does not always indicate the kind of seller they will be.
I chuckle when a seller is unwilling to repair something that their buyer has requested and believes that the buyer is being petty or inflexible. Negotiations can go off the rails when ego take over. I often have to remind them of their requests when they were purchasing the home.
When they put the selling hat on they can be offended when a buyer asks for closing costs, even though they received closing assistance when they purchased the home. In fact many of them could not have purchased the home in the first place without the seller concessions.
When a buyer is making an offer they ask for the moon and hope to get a star or two. Buyers feel that sellers should help cover closing costs and accept an offer that may be below market value. Sellers feel that it is not their job to give up any of their profit for the sake of a buyer. Understandably, sellers want to walk away with the most money possible. Round and round it goes. This is the challenge that agents face regardless of which side of the transaction they may be working.
When the buyer becomes a seller, it is my job to remind them that moderation and compromise are a part of a successful outcome for both parties. Walking a mile in the seller’s shoes may take years for a past buyer to experience. Watching a loyal and satisfied customer experience both sides of a transaction can be frustrating and even amusing at times. The opportunity to see things come full circle is a reminder that walking a mile in someone else’s shoes is one of the most effective and powerful teaching moments in life.